Many people want to succeed. Whether it is in sports, in the intellectual world, in the work world, in the social world, in the artistic fields, in the family field. I don't think I know anyone for whom success is not important.
Being successful is like securing our self-esteem. It gives power to our personal confidence. Success smiles on us: we seem to fall in love with who we are! The sky lights up! It is raining, we will make the clouds disappear. Everything seems possible. We are ready to climb all the Mount Everest in the world.
Applauded for our talents and skills, positively recognized for our qualities, invited to each other's homes, accepted in who we are and our personal history, we feel part of the human family. Our inner power increases and becomes somewhat proud. We know that we are unique and important at least to some people! So, a certain aura surrounds us, we become charismatic, we appreciate others, we want to be with the world, united with it.
When, for one reason or another, the opposite happens, we feel sorry. The footballer, when defeated by the opposing team, sits down on a bench and holds his head in his hands. This image of the defeated sportsman is not rare! But it is not only athletes who sometimes find themselves in this state. The passionate lover who is refused advances, the penniless young man who would like to study, the brilliant artist who cannot break through and who is refused competitions, the gifted man or woman who is oppressed by a society with closed criteria, the young girl who is a bit chubby in a world of restrictive stereotypes must deploy talents and resources to spare in order to carve out a place for herself in the world. And then there are the migrants! Those who flee war, famine, unemployment! Those who lose everything to ask for asylum from others, who still have everything!
Often, the rejected, the stateless, those who experience failure, after a few years, if not a few months, abandon their goal of rebuilding their present for a better future and like our soccer player, take their head in their hands and cry over their failed desire for a better life!
Many dream of success. In my opinion, success can only be achieved after a succession of failures and introspections. In fact, success represents 1% of your work, which includes 99% of what can be called failure. Soichiro Honda
Soichiro Honda's words open the door to understanding the positive experience of failure. This courageous posture in the face of failure is called resilience. The quality of resilience is based on very serious introspection. Introspection requires authenticity of responses. In this sense, as in the quantum universe, truth can only come from a consideration of reality! This reality of failure then does exist. The failure then perceived realistically cannot be a success. It does not produce the same effects. Feelings, anger, negative stresses, traumas, feelings of malaise, loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, loss of personal willpower, dependencies and self-destruction of oneself and others are examples.
It is not enough to say that in every failure there is a victory to help relieve the suffering caused by failure. It seems to me that this reasoning is rather childish because it denies the reality of failure and the very real suffering it causes! Consideration of the reality of failure and the facts that really happened to us, of the disappointed efforts, of the rejection, of the non-recognition of our peers and of the loss of our personal esteem and confidence must be seriously considered. It is through this respectful listening and attention to the facts that generated the feeling of failure that we can feel relieved or truly helpful.
It is also the coaching process necessary to reshape positive resources around the hope of a future rebuilt on the bridges of realism and common sense. Cécile Purusha Hontoy, author, speaker, trainer.
Does failure really exist? I would answer, at the risk of denying the difficulties of living in a sometimes too angelic utopianism, with a big yes! Failure does exist. We encounter it several times a day and to report it authentically transforms us, not into victims, but rather into real humans! So, despite the loss of our comforts and our hopes, we remain upright at the center of our resources and walk resolutely and voluntarily towards a future remodeled with the values of the ethics of the foundations of the right to life and success for all.
Cécile Hontoy (Swami Purushananda)
40 years of career in personal and corporate services,
philosopher, yogi, author, teacher, M.A anthropology, speaker, trainer (companies and individuals), professional coach ( CQPNL).
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